I’m Rebecca, Couples & Sex Therapist
I help couples who feel stuck in patterns of disconnection find their way back to closeness, passion, and trust. As a certified couples and sex therapist licensed in NY, CT & MA, I work with people in all stages of life — dating, newly partnered, long-term relationships, and those navigating parenting or life transitions.
My practice is inclusive and affirming of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures.
Why I Do This Work
Most couples don’t struggle because they’ve “fallen out of love” — they get stuck in cycles of disconnection. Beneath the fights or silence, partners long to feel secure, desired, and important to each other.
I know how easily intimacy gets lost in the noise of daily life. My mission is to help couples move out of those stuck places and back into connection. I love hearing people’s stories, and while we’ll talk about hard things, I also use humor to ease tension and build closeness.
Our work will feel like an ongoing conversation. I’ll ask (hopefully) thoughtful questions and give honest feedback, but you’re always the expert on your own life.
My Approach
My work is rooted in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the most effective and research-backed approaches for couples therapy. EFT helps partners identify and break free from negative cycles, like criticism and withdrawal, or pursuing and distancing, and replace them with patterns of emotional safety, responsiveness, and trust.
When couples learn to recognize the deeper emotions driving their conflicts, they can respond differently and start to repair instead of repeating the same arguments.
I also integrate sex therapy, somatic practices, and attachment-based tools, because desire and passion don’t exist in a vacuum, they are deeply connected to how safe, seen, and understood we feel by our partners.
What You Can Expect
Couples who work with me often say they finally feel like they understand why they keep getting stuck, instead of just blaming themselves or each other.
In our sessions, we’ll:
Slow down conflict and uncover the emotions underneath.
Rebuild trust and intimacy through small but powerful shifts.
Explore desire differences with compassion instead of shame.
Create new patterns of connecting that will last
My style is warm, supportive, and real. I’ll challenge you when needed, but always with the goal of helping you feel more connected, secure, and desired in your relationship.
The Boring Stuff
Ph.D in Clinical Sexology
Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in New York, Connecticut & Massachusetts
Co-Host of the podcast Under the Hood
Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT)
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
Trained in Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level II trained
Perinatal Mental Health Certification (PMH-C)
Personal coping skills include exercise, cursing, meditation, cooking, gardening, trashy novels, and hiking with my husband, two boys, and our aspiring therapy dog, Acorn.
Do we have to talk about sex?
No! Many couples I work with find that emotional disconnection often comes with sexual disconnect, but not all. My goal is to help you build a secure, fulfilling relationship, whatever that looks like for the two of you.
