Couples & Relationship Therapy
Your relationship is in trouble.
Or maybe you just want to make a good thing even better.
It’s like you somehow got stuck on opposing teams.
You don’t feel as connected as you used to. It feels like you’re having the same fight over and over, or maybe you’ve stopped communicating altogether. You aren’t satisfied with the romance or intimacy in your relationship. Maybe there has been deceit or infidelity and trust has been eroded. You don’t know how to move forward. Couples therapy can help you and your partner release the cycle of conflict and rebuild your relationship in a way that feels right to you.
You’re probably feeling pretty frustrated…
You or your partner might be nervous about couples therapy and unsure about what the process will be like. You may be afraid of getting blamed for the problems in your relationship, or you may not believe counseling will make any difference.
Each couple is different, but here’s a little bit about how I work:
I am on the side of the relationship.
I use evidence based, attachment focused methods that utilize concrete communication strategies to re-build and maintain connection, trust, and understanding between partners.
As an AASECT certified sex therapist, I am comfortable talking about even the uncomfortable stuff.
No topic is off-limits…
but here are some I hear a lot.
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Communication
You don’t feel seen or heard, and neither does your partner. Sometimes it feels like you are speaking different languages for how well you understand each other. You’ve tried but you just can’t seem to get on the same page and it feels like you are trapped in a cycle of disconnection.
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Sexual difficulties
Your sex life is a source of conflict or frustration. You don’t know how to rekindle the spark you once had and maybe you’re scared to even try. Mismatched desires and needs have left you both feeling frustrated and you don’t know how to fix it. Check out What is sex therapy anyway to learn more
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Infidelity
An affair or deceit has happened and now you are questioning everything. Whether the infidelity is fresh or happened years ago, many couples really struggle to rebuild trust and move forward without support. A couples intensive or weekly sessions can really help.
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Parenting, Pregnancy & Fertility
You want the best for your kids (even if you haven’t conceived yet). Perhaps parenting, pregnancy, or the struggle to conceive has brought up unexpected issues in your relationship, or maybe you just want to “safeguard” your relationship for the challenges ahead. Want more? Check out Parents in love: How to stay connected after kids
A couple of options for couples therapy…
Weekly or biweekly sessions
Weekly or biweekly sessions (50 or 80 minutes) are a good option for couples who want to work on ongoing issues and pattern changes over a sustained period of time. These sessions are especially beneficial for maintaining progress after a couple's intensive. Otherwise, couples are encouraged to consider longer sessions for at least the first 3-4 meetings, in order to gain momentum.
Couples intensive
A 1-2 day couple's intensive is a format that supports accelerated progress. It’s a great option for couples in crisis, folks whose schedules are not compatible with ongoing sessions, or those who want to jumpstart weekly or biweekly sessions by gaining traction on common but challenging issues such as loss of emotional or sexual connection, infidelity, co- parenting challenges, divorce or just a relationship tune up.
